“Mum, this is the Mother’s Day card I made for you at school. Isn’t it nice? Mum, do you like it?”
“It’s so beautiful, you did a great job, Mum really likes it! Thank you, my love.”
Parents usually give their kids a big hug and kiss after receiving a handmade card, and happily take it, regardless of whether it is really well made or not. After all, it is the child’s heartfelt effort, so the main thing is to support and encourage them.
The controversial “Tiger Mother” refused to accept the birthday cards made by her two children because she thought the cards were too rough and that the children had not put their hearts into it. Under the strict demands of the Tiger Mother’s education, the children made great efforts to produce beautiful cards and in their future studies and lives, they did their best to constantly surpass themselves, and are now very accomplished.
The Tiger Mother’s actions have been questioned by many, as there are reports that many children, who have never received praise or recognition from their parents since childhood, have left shadows on their growth journey.
So, what exactly should we parents do? Should we be strict with our children or be lenient and encouraging?
From a practical psychology perspective, we interpret it like this:
When we are educating our children, there are several steps:
First, be clear about what kind of person you want to raise your child to be. The Tiger Mother was very clear that she wanted her children to be A-grade students, not just B+.
The second step is to understand the child’s own characteristics. When rejecting the birthday card from her children, the Tiger Mother’s premise was that she understood her children’s potential, and she knew that her children were capable of making better cards.
At the same time, not every child can become a doctor or a tennis star. Many things cannot be achieved just by effort. So what are my child’s characteristics? What direction is suitable for them?……