Petals fall and fly, filling the sky; who pities the fading red and lost fragrance?
A thousand people will have a thousand Lin Daiyus in their hearts—unparalleled beauty, overflowing talent, fresh and refined, sincere and pure… yet also melancholic, capricious, sensitive, sharp-tongued, and frail… ultimately leaving in sorrow and loneliness.
There is also a girl with a similar background—motherless from a young age, living under someone else’s roof. Even more unfortunate, she lacks a Baogong who dotes on and protects her, and instead faces constant bullying and mistreatment from her stepmother and sister. Oh right, that’s Cinderella. In the end, with the help of others, she attends the ball, marries the prince, and lives happily ever after.
With similar backgrounds, how could their outcomes differ so greatly?
Lin Daiyu feels sorrow at the sight of blooming flowers, fearing their eventual fall; seeing others reunite, she pities her own loneliness; in the treacherous world of the Jia family, her heart grows cold and bitter…
Cinderella, on the other hand, does heavy, tiring chores every day, yet still sings songs and tries to help the little animals; in the face of constant bullying from her stepmother and sister, she remains kind to everyone…
It’s all because of their different attitudes and pursuits in life. It’s because Cinderella truly knows how to “love herself”!
If Cinderella had no compassion, she wouldn’t have helped those little animals, and they wouldn’t have helped her attend the ball.
If Cinderella didn’t love herself, she would only wallow in self-pity over her fate, or even give up on herself entirely.
If Cinderella had no pursuit of a beautiful life, she might not even have wanted to attend the ball, let alone have the beautiful clothes and the beautiful glass slippers.
When everyone in your life abandons you, when no one loves you anymore, when no one understands or agrees with you, remember—there is still one last strong shield left for you: loving yourself! Only by “loving yourself” can you continue to pursue a beautiful life and never give up.
As your experiences become richer and the setbacks you face grow more numerous, after enduring others’ coldness, misunderstanding,委屈, low self-esteem, helplessness, anxiety, and inner conflict… can you still find beauty in life? Can you still continue to “love yourself”?
It’s okay. Practical psychology teaches you some simple techniques. “Loving yourself” starts with understanding yourself, and rediscovering the beauty of life.