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Everyone knows that controlling your weight is actually simple—just eat less and exercise more.
But when it comes to delicious food, it’s hard to resist the temptation! “Okay, I’ll just eat this one meal, and I’ll definitely eat less next time.”
Even when you’re already full, with just one bite left, you think, “I might as well finish it off, don’t want to waste it, and besides, this stuff isn’t that high in calories.”
The gym membership was signed six months ago, and the plan was to go out and work up a sweat tonight. “Well, today at work didn’t go well at all, I’m really unhappy, I’ll go tomorrow instead…”
Gradually, because of my body shape, I’ve come to dislike myself more and more, become less confident, and often feel guilty.
Psychology tells us that all behaviors are related to emotions. In the act of eating, your certain emotion is being satisfied or released. For example, some people eat to relieve stress—just like Po in Kung Fu Panda, who eats when he’s stressed;
some people eat to satisfy their desires—like Zhu Bajie in Journey to the West, who uses eating to replace lust, and some people use eating to hide their low self-esteem—because I’m a foodie, so I’m fat; even some people use eating to unlock their potential—like Luffy in One Piece…
Finding the cause makes the problem easier to solve. Use psychological skills to replace other behaviors to relieve stress and satisfy desires.
If an imperfect body shape isn’t a problem for you, then enjoy eating. If you want to change this habit, what deep motivation is behind your “eating too much”?
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“This really drives me crazy. After three years of marriage, I’ve told my husband countless times to put dirty clothes in the laundry room; after taking something out of a drawer, push it back in; after using something, put it back where it belongs, otherwise it’ll take a lot of time to find it next time…
“What’s wrong with that? Even preschoolers know that. But today, our home is still full of dirty clothes on the floor; the kitchen cabinet doors and drawers are half open or half closed; the sleeping bag we brought back from camping three months ago is still piled up on the sofa…
“Does he not care about me anymore? Otherwise, why would he ignore what I say? The house is so messy, yet he’s busy playing games and completely ignores my feelings?”
It turns out that everyone processes information differently. The wife is a visual type—only when things are neatly arranged and orderly does it look like a home. The husband is exactly the opposite, a sensory type, doing things however is most convenient. A home is the most relaxing place, where you can do whatever you want. Why should it look like a sample room?
I once asked this wife to try not to make her bed for a week. As I expected, the wife exclaimed, “He didn’t even notice!”
Can these situations be changed? Practical psychology teaches you how to deal with personality differences between couples!
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“I must sleep before 11, I must sleep! Tomorrow I have an important client meeting, and then a meeting with my boss, followed by a year-end summary group discussion… I must be focused and energetic.
“I’ll just finish reading this WeChat article before sleeping, this one is also good. It’s not a waste of time, it’s important information, and I can learn something that will help my work…
“Oh no, it’s almost 2 a.m. I’ll definitely go to bed earlier tomorrow night. How can I get rid of this procrastination habit?”
Psychology suggests that people naturally do things that align with their values. As long as the things you want to do align with your values, anyone will generate endless motivation, just like many kids who can’t stop playing games. So, solving procrastination doesn’t require strong willpower, nor does it require drinking鸡汤 or getting pumped up. You just need to understand the values hidden in your subconscious.